[Insert New Year, New Start cliche]
Let me start off with saying i have never set any firm new years resolutions beyond a half-hearted mono-toned mumbling to the cat as the fireworks fizzled out. I do however try to make every day an opportunity to practice small, positive changes towards personal growth, so this decision has just been the next in a series of life choices i have been mindfully reflecting on. I got rid of my TV almost a year ago as i started to be more conscious about how i was spending my time, and my procrastination gremlin had also resurfaced, so amid the white noise of Brexit i felt it was the right time to get rid of that particular negative distraction.
So as a person in recovery from addictions myself, recent articles highlighting similarities between (dopamine) releases and triggers from social media to those of ‘traditional substances’ like cocaine really made me think about my own use of social media. [source] [source] [source]
What once seemed a benign and practical way to keep in touch with family and friends, and occasionally sharing funny pictures, has for me, at the very best become a haven for procrastination, my thumb aimlessly scrolling for what must have been some miles daily during any free time. At worst, i had noticed my mood changing depending on certain interactions with social media, and in real life i was often distracted, sometimes even having a flutter of panic if i had left my phone somewhere i could not check it.
What struck home for me particularly as somebody who often bemoans the fact that i don’t have enough time, was a recent report that stated; “as of 2017, daily social media usage of global internet users amounted to 135 minutes per day” [source] I could not believe it. That is almost a part time job.
So what that i waste time on social media, it is hardly an addiction really is it?
‘Addiction’ is often characterised as a compulsive behaviour, that in turn has a negative impact on an individuals life. So while i am not shoplifting to pay for my WiFi, or holding people hostage for likes, i have noticed some addictive behaviours creeping in and have made the conscious decision to be more present in my daily life, and limit my use of social media.
“Desires for media may be comparatively harder to resist because of their high availability and also because it feels like it does not ‘cost much’ to engage in these activities, even though one wants to resist.” [source]
So with the knowledge that social media and apps are created specifically to be addictively engaging [source] it is of course on us individually to challenge our compulsive urges of instant gratification and where appropriate use coping strategies. Be mindful of how you are interacting with the world around you and do some honest reflection. Are your current behaviours truly benefiting you and those around you?
Everyone whom i told about my decision to take a break from Facebook made a very similar and somewhat disconcerting face, a mix of shock, and that suspicious face you make when you think someone has farted in a lift. Their reaction was oddly reminiscent to that of some of my drug using acquaintances when i first told them i was going into rehab.
What that means for me is simply deleting the apps from my phone, nothing more. I am not putting any pressure on myself to delete my accounts, or making any commitment to anyone other than myself. I am taking things ‘one day at a time’. Also just to note i did not do the dramatic ‘i am leaving facebook post’ that you often see before a person typically returns the following day. This is not about others. This is a personal choice.
I am 10 days in, i feel less anxious in general and have read 2 books i have been putting off, including rereading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, which is a great book if you have not read it yet, and started a blog which has been on my to do list for an age. I have also taken more time out to practice mindfulness and CBT techniques which have really helped me calm my overactive brain chatter.
If you are struggling with any type of addictive behaviour, remember you are not alone and there are services and resources that can help.
If you want to take the leap, here is a great little TED talk about quitting social media –
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